The Boomerang Effect

A friend was telling me about how her grown granddaughter has come to live with her and how the granddaughter isn't happy and she is making my friends home an unhappy place to live.
My friend is putting a positive spin on it and working on being positive about it and doing things HOPING it will make her granddaughter happy, even purchasing a ticket to another country so her grandaughter could visit a boyfriend. This temporarily relieved my friend of this negative influence on her home.
Well, the granddaughter came back to live with my friend and she is back to square one. I will say this is not the first time my friend has done something wonderful for her granddaughter only to have it come back around, leaving her in the same place as before. I call this the boomerang effect. Let me repeat, You CANNOT Control outside circumstances the more you try, the more it will come back to bite you.
You are only responsible for YOURSELF, so you have to change the way YOU look at the situation and ask yourself how do I feel about the situation and if you are feeling NOT GOOD about a situation, change what YOU think and how YOU feel about the situation.
It is NOT your responsibility to make someone happy, nor is it anyone elses responsibility to make you happy.
In this situation I understand my friends view, she doesn't want to hurt feelings but my friend is not happy either. Take the steps to make YOU happy, I told my friend, it is ok to ask her granddaughter to leave, yes the granddaughter will probably get angry, yes, the granddaughter will be nice and accommodating for a short period of time to attempt to change her grandmothers mind. AND what my friend should do is hold steadfast to what she KNOWS to be her truth, which is she wants her beautiful, zenful, sanctuary of a home back, she needs to visualize the place as she knows it to be, she needs to say this IS MY sanctuary. I am HAPPY in my space. She needs to feel good about her home in any situation.
When you think and do the way you have always thought and done, you will always get what you always gotten, how do we change what we get?
Change YOUR perspective on a situation.
THINK POSITIVELY about the situation AND visualize what you want.
Get yourself into a GOOD FEELING place about the situation.
You are ONLY responsible for YOU.
Stay tuned for a process that can help...
more soon
anna

Worry Wednesdays

My friend Anita was telling us about a conversation she was in with a friend who worried ALOT. A suggestion was made that they pick a day and time to just worry and worry about everything for the week in this time.
Well of course, we decided that we would pick wednesdays at 12:00pm and worry for 15 minutes, so from 12:00pm-12:15pm, stop and worry about everything you have to worry about for the week and then do lunch.
Some people ask, Anna, you tell us to think and speak positively and then you say worry at a specific time and day? Well if you are part of the group that no longer worries, then kudos to you...keep on keepin' on and smile and chuckle with "the worriers". I also want you to note that when you do worry like that you are still sending out into the universe your desires and what you really want. Now as you go about the rest of your "happy" week, a few things will start happening...you will eventually NOT have to sit and worry on your wednesday AND thinGs that you have been wanting will start manifesting themselves into your reality...hmmmm....something to THINK about...are you really THE MASTER OF YOUR OWN THOUGHTS?? Why yes you are!
so think good thoughts AND dream BIG DREAMS!!
Be happy where you are and watch where it takes you!

Stressifest to Manifest...what?

My neice brought me a message from a mutal friend, he said "tell Anna that i don't manifest, I stressifest". We got a good laugh out of this and at a glance, it is so true, we can stress our selves out and get 'er done! But when you step back, do you really? Do you notice that the more you stress AND get it done, THE MORE you STRESS and get it done? I used to do this, when my brother and I were business partners in our first print shop, we would procrastinate until we couldn't procrastinate anymore and then we "POWER HOUSED IT"! It's what we called working our butts off 24/7 until we got the work done. Funny, we did this every week for a while...stressing ourselves out and then working like maniacs to finish all the work. It was a pattern that kept showing up until finally WE GOT IT!! We kept getting the same because we were telling the universe this is how we did things and obviously we KNOW what we want and WE create our own reality. In reality we were just creating a spiral of craziness around us until we couldn't take it and "SOMETHING HAD TO GIVE". NOW, I take a step back when things start getting a little hectic, don't want to send the wrong signal, and I say, "Thank you for this project we are working on and we ARE good at what we do AND our customer will appreciate the time and energy we are putting into their project all will get done in good time". It's amazing how time will stretch, how clients are understanding AND appreciative. How things run smoother, better and even faster when we think positively FIRST, then DO SECOND.
Next time you start "stressifesting" stop and CHANGE YOUR MIND, take a deep breathe and then relax into what you are doing..."Be Happy Where You ARE And Watch Where It Takes You"!

Remember Law of Attraction works all day everyday, 24 hours a day 7 days a week, wether you USE it or not. "Your thoughts become things, so choose the good ones"!

Getting what you want!

Today, more than ever, we are living in fast moving energy, want proof?? You are reading this right now. Where are you? I am in Atlanta, Georgia, you could be my neighbor or you could be the person across the world, not a few years ago would you imagine (or maybe you did) that you could communicate like this. You want more proof, look at your life from the outside, really look...now look at your your life from the inside? Do they match up...I can almost guarantee you, if you are happy and joyful, your insides probably match your outside. If you are unhappy, complain, get angry, depressed etc. I bet your inside (what you want) is no where near your outside. Time for a change of THOUGHT...don't you think...Step one for getting what you want, Ask for it and then FEEL GOOD in knowing it is on its way to you...

Makin' Plans? Check your thoughts and emotions...twice

Whatever you're thinking about is literally like planning a future event.
When you're worrying, you are planning.
When you are appreciating, you are planning
...What are you planning?

Excerpted from the workshop in Silver Spring, MD on Saturday, April 19th, 1997

Anytime, anytime you are consciously aware of an emotion, the emotion
is authentic feedback. Every time, no exceptions.

Abraham 2/19/09